Have you been getting that nagging or uncomfortable feeling in the pit of your stomach about your boyfriend? It might be your subconscious trying to alert you to the fact that something is not quite right in your relationship.
Women rarely ever wake up one day and wonder “is my boyfriend cheating?”
Rather, it will be a slow process, a feeling, perhaps something that he says, the way he starts to behave towards you, that you can sense. You might not be able to put a finger on it but just know things in your relationship are slightly off center.
Women are very good at using their intuition to smell out a situation.
If you are in this position now, you might find yourself watching your boyfriend with hawk eyes.
You might ask him a questions and then check his reaction to them. Without knowing it, you’ll be scanning his face, listening to the timbre of his voice, reading his body language in order to see if there is anything out of sync with what he is saying and how his body is reacting.
You’ll want to know whether he has lots of unexplained absences or reasons why he was late or missed a dinner date or movie with you. He doesn’t seem to be the same person that you met and fell in love with anymore.
The way your boyfriend reacts to this subtle but new line of questioning from you will give you some feedback as to whether you were wrong or whether he is definitely up to something.
You Need Evidence That He Is Cheating
The problem with having a vague, intangible gut feeling is that you don’t have any concrete evidence that will tell you whether you have a cheating boyfriend.
You could try the direct approach and ask him straight out if he is seeing someone else but he might not give you an honest answer!
In fact, this might make him realize that you know something is not right and you’re now on his case fishing around for more information.
And it is most likely that he’ll go on the defensive by accusing YOU of being suspicious or he might cool off his affair (if he is seeing someone) and give you more time and attention just to throw you off the scent.
What you really need to do is to catch your boyfriend cheating.
You need hard evidence that he is doing something he should not be doing.
Unfortunately, this requires you to turn into a bit of a snoop and to go through his personal possessions.
Just imagine yourself to be a private detective for a while with a mission to prove whether you are wrong or to confirm that he is lying to you and this might make you feel a little better about what you are doing.
The truth is you have no option.
You either take what he says and make yourself believe that he isn’t seeing anyone else and carry on with your life.
But realize that you might get that little doubting voice or feeling again that something is wrong a few months down the line.
So, as much as you would like to not believe the bad stuff, you owe it to yourself to get to the bottom of it.
After all, if he is cheating on you, it’s better you find out as soon as possible. There is simply no point in investing more time in a man who is not worthy of your love and affection.
What Are You Looking For?
There is no particular order to this list, just feel free to go through it in a manner that feels easiest for you:
The beauty of modern technology is that nearly everyone in the developed world has access to a mobile phone and will use it as their primary mode of contact with other people. Whether they are calling to speak to someone or texting, or sending images and video clips, it’s all done by a mobile phone.
Which means that you can so easily find out a LOT of information from one device.
Of course, you’re going to have to find a way to get your hands on his phone (when he is sleepin or taking a shower) and then you can check his dialed calls, missed calls and received calls.
You can also check his text messages, messages he has sent and past text messages received.
You can look through his images gallery on his phone to find out if he has taken any photos of places and people and events that you have no knowledge of.
All of this can be easily done by using cell phone spy programs or phone tracking software which secretly collect information from cell phones.
You can buy this software yourself and install it on your boyfriend’s phone. It’s very easy enough to do.
All the information about texts and phone calls, names and numbers of people that he has called, text messages received and sent, all of this information is posted to a website which is accessible ONLY BY YOU. You’ll get a secret password which is needed and that only you (or whoever buys the software) will have.
This means you only need to get the phone from your boyfriend once, for a short while, in order to install the cell phone spy software.
Once you’ve done this he won’t know its installed at all.
And you’ll be able to access all the information YOU NEED in order to determine whether he is cheating on you or not.
His Email & Social Accounts
With the internet playing such a huge part in all our lives and especially in the way we communicate with each other, it should come as no surprise that communicating via email or social accounts such as Facebook is another way for cheating boyfriends to stay in touch with their other women.
If you have access to his accounts, you might want to log on to his profile and have a good hunt around his email and Facebook or Myspace accounts. See if you can find anything in there that would support your feeling that he has lied to you.
His Personal Possessions & Clothes
Going through his trouser, shirt and jacket pockets might give you receipts or tickets of places he has been to. If you find a ticket to movie and you didn’t go and see that with him…..you’ll want to know where that ticket came from.
Similarly, if you can get access to his wallet where he’ll probably have most of his receipts, you’ll be able to find out if he has been out wining and dining without you or visited any places without you.
Receipts have dates and timestamps on them which mean that you can pinpoint him down to a particular place at a certain time. This will help you to determine whether he is hiding information from you.
Clothes are also great for finding those tell-tale lipstick signs or smelling fragrances from a perfume that you don’t use!
These were just a few ideas that you can implement straightaway and without the cost of hiring a private investigator to follow your boyfriend around.
You can start things off by trawling through his wallet and clothes for tell-tale signs but to get concrete evidence easily, you might want to consider using a cell phone spy program to spy on your boyfriend’s phone and get real proof of the calls and text messages made from or received on his phone.
In all this, remember there might be a logical explanation for his recent odd behavior and there might be a perfectly valid reason why he hasn’t told you the truth. You’ll now be armed with proper facts and figures and you can go through and see what his reactions are.
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