Where do you go to meet nice single men?
This is a hot topic amongst many women these days, especially if you’re worried that you might never get married.
At times it seems as though planet earth is devoid of all the nice single men…of course, when we say “nice” we don’t really always mean that exactly. Whilst we want a yes-man, someone who panders to us all the time and makes us feel good but, er, ummm we also want a “nice” man who has balls.
You know, someone who has “gumption”.
Someone who is handsome, successful, has drive, ambition, is ruthless when he needs to be, a leader, has vision and yet…….still has time for US.
We want someone who can play “nice guy” but with an edge.
Does this make sense? Women can relate to this, men won’t have a clue what we mean.
But ask any woman whether she is looking for Mr Nice Guy….and she’ll say “yeess”, hesitantly and then go on to explain what she means by “nice“.
As if being “nice” implied a man who was sugar coated and sickly sweet.
We want it all.
Ever thought that a successful man, probably with his own business, leading a company, extremely rich and so on might be full of money but short on time….for you ……….and your kids if you’re planning on having any.
Trying to figure out what we want might be a bit difficult but we definitely know what we DON’T want.
We don’t want a guy who cheats on us, for sure.
Remember though, if you’re fishing for a guy who is handsome, charming and successful – everywhere you go most women are going to be drawn to him.
Whether they smile at him as he walks past, or the waitress who lingers too long at the table whilst she is serving your order, or your friends who can’t seem to drag themselves away from him whenever the two of you are out with them.
With the whole handsome-charming-successful package comes a whole lot of worry-jealousy-trouble……..FOR YOU.
Make sure you can deal with this ecause you’re going to have to put up with it most days.
Which means you need to be a woman who feels totally confident in herself, at ease with her looks and body. In short, you’re going to need to be an exact match for your Mr Perfect. Kind of like Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie.
These two are the epitome of what many would class as one of the most handsomecouples in the world. Brad is often considered to be one of most handsome men around and Angelina is no stranger to the beautiful woman lists being a beautiful and stunning woman herself.
They complement each other, looks wise, at least.
So whilst women might adore him, she knows she can put up with it because she has as many men (and women) crazy about her.
Just something to think about.
So, our definition of a “nice guy” out of the way, let’s try to figure out where these guys have gone to because they seem quite elusive to find.
Are You Fishing In The Right Pond?
Think of it like this, when you’re hungry and you go shopping for groceries the WRONG thing to do would be to end up at the grocery store and you just end up picking up everything because you’re hungry RIGHT NOW and can’t think straight.
So you pick food that might satisfy your initial hunger pangs but long-term this type of food isn’t going to be good for you: bars of chocolates, candy, cakes, biscuits.
If you had PLANNED in advance the groceries you needed, you would have made a list and you would have given some thought to meal planning. So perhaps you might have healthy fruits and vegetables on your list of things to get.
So, even though you’re HUNGRY NOW, you’ve planned ahead and thought of the long-term food you’re going to cook. You’ll end up with a satisfying and nutritious meal that is good for you to eat.
Oh and the really important point that is almost taken for granted here…when you need groceries, you’d go to the grocery store or supermarket right? You wouldn’t go to a pet shop.
Looking for men is pretty similar to looking for food.
Firstly, you need to go fishing in a pond full of the type of fish you need.
Secondly, you need to have thought of what it is you want.
If you just walk into a bar with your friends, hoping to catch the eye of a nice guy….chances are you haven’t really decided what you are looking for. You’re going to go on looks and first impressions.
So you meet a guy and get talking to him and then you find out what sort of person he is.
Now compare that tactic to the following one:
You make a list of the TYPE of person you are looking for.
Make a list of his looks, what sort of education you’d like your man to have, hobbies and interests and anything else that is important to you. Perhaps religion, whether he wants want children and so on.
Now, if you’re looking for someone who is sporty and athletic because you are, then the right pool to go fishing in is to join an athletic or running club near you. If you have an appreciation for fine food and wine then joining the local wine-tasting club would be a great idea.
Think of it, you’re going to a place where there are other like-minded people. People who share the same interests as you. You’ve narrowed down your pool and instead of trying to meet someone at a bar….you’ve increased your chances of meeting a sporty and athletic guy because you’ve joined a running club.
It all comes down to your interests and what you are looking for.
Not many people would go to the trouble of listing out their ideal guy and the traits they are looking for. Consequently, not many people go about trying to find the right person in the right way.
If you want to know where to meet nice single men and how to meet a good guy, you might want to take a look at this system.
Don’t start worrying about things like “is he marriage material“? because you’ll get ahead of yourself.
Even if you are looking for good husband material you don’t want to send out signals that you are desperate to get a man to marry you.
First things first. Fish in the right pool in order to find the right type of guy for you.
Someone who shares your interests, hobbies, values and goals.
This is a good start.
Don’t worry about how to make him your boyfriend just yet.
You don’t have to worry about the whole hit and miss dating stuff either because you are meeting casually at a social setting.
You’re both there (at the wine-tasting event or running club) because you have the same passion or interest for these hobbies.
So, unlike where you meet a guy at a bar, you don’t have to sit at home wondering whether he will text you or call you or when you will see him next.
Because you approached the whole process of how to find the right guy from a different angle you’re going to see him regularly at these events.
There is no pressure because this isn’t a “date”.
You’ll get to know each other, you’ll have a common hobby to talk about so conversation won’t be difficult or awkward.
So, things will start off naturally.
You’ll find you don’t need to do anything to make him your boyfriend.
Over time, if you both become attracted to each other, things will take their natural course.
Of course, getting into a relationship with a guy is one thing, knowing how to get him to commit is another.
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